Think beyond crafts and join, The Craftacular in SoHo

Department stores make my head spin. How to tolerate perfume spraying in your face and mile-a-minute escalators? I shop at markets.

This Saturday and Sunday, BUST magazine is hosting their holiday shopping event in SoHo called the Craftacular (Think beyond crafts). There will be over 200 vendors from around the globe featuring everything from cupcake party dresses created by Katy Perry to natural soaps promising beauty in simplicity.ImageTiming is everything. No better way to continue supporting Small Businesses Saturday than to shop from innovative pioneers set apart from the billboard brands. BUST magazine is the original small business magazine, emphasizing content, content, content. Going on their 20th anniversary, this eclectic femme magazine impacts women’s ferocity as they herald the notion, “for women with something to get off their chests.”

 
Every good feminist shops practically. Every legit feminist shops tipsy. Thankfully the Craftacular accommodates all types, which is why in addition to shopping there will be a beer garden, DJs, a prize raffle, and an activity craft station.
See you there!
 
 
The BUST Magazine Craftacular & Food Fair Holiday 2012
Saturday, December 1 & Sunday, December 2, 11 am – 7 pm
82 Mercer in Soho (between Spring & Broome)
$3 admission; goodie bags for the first 300 shoppers each day
Free raffle, DJs, beer garden, a Make Your Own Gifts station sponsored by
Kollabora, loom weaving demo by Loop of the Loom
200+ craft and food vendors

Some confirmed vendors include: LAB by Laura Busony; Not Just Tea;
ClareBare lingerie; New York Couture; BillyWolf NYC; Metropolis Soap
Co.; Jessy’s Pastries; H.S. Chocolate Co.; Cultured Confections;
Dollsville; Brookadelphia.

The Apple Eaters

The Apple Eaters

Woman Unplug During Hurricane Sandy.  The Apple Eaters are the women who come to New York, aka the big apple, to fulfill their dreams and take a juicy crunch out of life.

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Sweet!

Stripped of connection with civilization, i.e. the Internet, and from any respects of hygiene, The Apple Eaters lodging at the Salvation Army Women’s Dormitory went raw.  Just what any woman would do in a crisis: open a bottle of wine and spill their guts until laughter numbs the cranky pain.  Rather than brush past each other en route to fulfill busy schedules, we paused to hang out.

 The first recruit, who we will call Femminista, was lost in Leo Tolstoy’s Anna Karenina.  The girl is a reader; in her current library is, “Feminism is for Everyone” and, “Outrageous Acts and Everyday Rebellions,” by Gloria Steinem.  She is totally comfortable with herself, which is why she was so intriguing to approach.  As an Apple Eater, she is interning for the feminist pop culture magazine, BUST before returning to Iowa State University to complete her degree in fashion merchandising. 

 When I asked Femminista how a feminist could be in fashion, she responded that fashion is an outlet to express yourself and to enjoy.

 If she could change womankind in three ways it would be to:

1.  No need to trash talk others.  Womanhood is not a competition. 

2.  Girls should be fashion leaders and not style according to the crowd’s latest trend.

3.  Independence.  A girl’s motivation should not be pressured by finding a mate.

 Why she is a feminist: 

 “I believe in equality,” said Femminista. 

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BUST, “the magazine for women with something to get off their chests.”

I had seen the second recruit, Lady Antique, often around the dormitory as we share the same floor and found her to be shy and afraid of her own shadow.  Not. the. case.  Her opinion speaks volumes because she is concise and knows what she wants. 

 During the Hurricane, she found she was able to think more freely without the influence of, “media nonsense.” 

Lady Antique believes in reincarnation and as a child was swept with conscious visions, arguably memories, of her past lives.  The one that suits her most is being a schoolteacher in the 1960’s in New England. 

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An antique is valued for its’ age, just as Lady Antique is an old soul.

This disclosure triggered an Apple Eater discussion about the spirit of a generation.  While our youth acts more in spirit of YouTube, hitting music videos like Gangnam Style millions of times, the 1960’s believed that less was more.  We are the essence of quantity rather than quality because we are clique-ing followers.

 We brought up the Occupy movement and so please blame the wine for the shrewd joke made if we were to occupy the fashion industry.  Imagine barricading Fifth Avenue and protesting the $500+ purchases of Jake Marcobs handbags and Milano Cookie Blah-blah-nik shoes. 

Having taken the bus from Harlem to downtown that day, I was shocked to have witnessed people shopping in the haute couture boutiques uptown. 

      How could you be sashaying your size 0 ass down Madison Avenue while your fellow New Yorkers didn’t give a damn whether it was bottled or tap; face it, they either needed water or needed to get rid of it. 

Stepping up to the plate is not an aerobics class.  Call me the Wicked Witch of West Village, but I’ll get you my pretties, and your little dogs with jeweled collars too!  

Recruit 3, Geronima, was taught to never settle for second best.  She is a project manager who gets her hands dirty.  When a cockroach joined the Apple Eaters for some compassion from the storm, she fearlessly helped me chase it around, pick it up and toss it out the window.  A living creature from before the dinosaurs deserved to live.

Naturally (positive sarcasm*), Lady Antique related the incident to the story of Metamorphisis by Franz Kafka.  While the sister became more beautiful and confident, the brother remained a wilted bug and died.

And so we were back on the feminism track!  Together, we shared our perspectives and defined what it means to be a feminist.  Our conclusions:

 The Individual:  She is a feminist if she puts her best self forward uninfluenced by pressures of others.  Feel worthy.

 Relationships with Men: Both can be feminist by respecting each other for what they do.  Believe in competence.

Relationships with Women:  A feminist listens to other women unconditionally and is able to see the strengths of different perspectives.  Listen and share.

Geronima would like to put our collective attitude into movement and so we, The Apple Eaters, have promised to reinstate the women’s new identity.  A fashion show in Union Square is the ticket to representing what women feel great wearing.  She is the brand.  The clothes bring forward who she is on the inside.  Think X-ray. 

Join and drink champagne to celebrate The Apple Eater!

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One Phone Call

I have been sacrificing my soul to live in New York.  The economy is not easy and as a means to network my passions for women’s media, I have been maintaining a job in a restaurant.

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so worth it.

During my last day off, I theater hopped fully equipped with resumés, business cards and a confident smile.  In college I covered the performance arts beat and would enjoy working for a theater company.

I looked through the event calendars of Time Out New York magazine and the Village Voice to see which theaters were busy and gained the most recognition.  Then I called to speak to the different venues’ managers and inquire about job opportunities.  Generally I was told to check the website and email a cover letter and resume.   Ugh, I was fed up!  After all, I had moved to the city exactly to avoid emailing.  So I pushed further and asked what was the best time to come in and meet.

When I contacted the Irish Repertory Theater in Chelsea, I was connected to a straightforward woman in management.

Bells!  “Yes, we have two job positions available, come in any time before 6pm.” 

I got her name and then headed to the theater.

What she, Gretchen, did was unusually compassionate.  She met me with a list of job resources to investigate in the New York theater industry…

“Job Resources:

            Playbill.com

            nyfa.org/jobs

            idealist.org

            philanthropy.com/section/jobs/224”

Before Gretchen briefed me about the jobs available within her theater, she handed me these resources and suggested I research them to better my chances.  This is called paying-it-forward.  Providing resources based off of one phone call shows that Gretchen supports positive competition.  A savvy connection is instantly made reflecting our interest in the theater industry.  Even if Gretchen’s theater does not consider me for the two jobs, I now have a boost up from a typical Google search.  And in return, I have a higher respect for the Irish Repertory Theater, which is celebrating its’ 25th anniversary.

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The IRT is the most video recorded theatre to be catalogued at the Performing Arts Library.

Not much older than I, Gretchen told me about how she had started as an administrator associate at a community theater in her home state, Wisconsin.  Then she moved to the city to earn a master’s degree in theater production from Colombia University.  Now she is the fundraising chair at the Irish Reparatory Theater and I have a gut feeling her career will continue successfully.

Concerning her initial job hunt, she said that she was received very well based on her cover letters and without having to ask she shared the format she followed:

“Start with Dear Sir or Madam and have a name to direct the letter,

   Paragraph 1-  Why you are writing and why you are interested in the job.

   Paragraph 2-  Go through the bulleted requirements of the job description and flesh out relevant experience explaining why you meet the criteria.

   Paragraph 3-  Share something about yourself.  Inherent qualities.

Assume the company will be interested, complete letter with, looking forward to hearing back from you.”

I made a phone call and arrived on scene.  Gretchen exceeded her responsibilities and made a difference.  I felt more knowledgeable and especially more motivated after meeting with her because she cared.  She could easily have taken my resume and placed it into a pile.  Whether successful or still sweating, I promise to follow her example and to always take time to listen and collaborate with others along this jobs obstacle course.

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Rosie the Riveter inspired jobs for millions of women during WWII.

Breakfast of Champions

Someone slipped a note underneath my door.  It made my day!  I opened the envelope complete with a doodled stamp, it said,

8pm 9/29

NYC

C.,

So ‘funne’ to meet you this September Morn!

Don’t write up my blog introduction yet unless you want to.

I am not quite ready to put anything on the Internet.

But… Thanks So Much for your enthusiasm…

                        Hugs,

               S.

S., or Sarah, is a psychotherapist and her fantasy is to have clients treated aboard her yacht drinking cocktails (no pressure on clients, but she will definitely be having a cocktail).  I invited her to sit down as she passed by my table over breakfast at a cafeteria hall, and delightfully she joined.

sail into sweet sanity

Surely enough, as most people in psychology are natural feelings disposals, I began spilling my sorrows about being hazed at a restaurant job.  Sarah thought of a game to make my job run smoother ­­–  Say to yourself, “I have a degree.  I am going to be a journalist.  I am just passing through.”  This certainly helps as Monsieur Blowjob pitchforks me with demands for 12 hours.

college graduation with pal, Jenna S. Journalism degrees!

When prospective clients sit down with Sarah for the first time she asks them three questions in the format of Today, Yesterday and Tomorrow:

1).  Why are you seeking therapy now?

2).  Have you had therapy before?

3).  Where would you like to see yourself progressing in six months?

A handful of Sarah’s clients have stayed with her for over 15 years.  Through hardships in dating, marriages, and now frantic worries about teenagers frolicking on the Internet, Sarah has been a rock.

While impressed by having developed such supportive relationships, I questioned the difference between therapy and me calling up my mom/ girlfriends on the phone.

 What is the difference between a psychotherapist and a friend?

Other than the fact that the clients continue to pay Sarah for her sessions, it is because she listens and in return is a loud yet genuine commentator.  When I met with her for lunch a week later, she recalled and asked me about several details from initially meeting at the cafeteria hall and even found me an alternate job if the restaurant did not work out.  Sarah cares.  But she also has a reclusive life of her own, à la difference.

I admire that her business card does not list an email address.  For Sarah’s ear, you must reach her through paper mail or telephone.

Ring a-ling a-ling

Internet phobia is nothing to be ashamed of.  I am cynical because anyone can create a website and even personal reviews like TripAdvisor are circumstantial and can be a letdown.  Personal references are full proof and so give the Neanderthals like Sarah a chance.  Technology changes, people don’t.

“Talk” the Talk

Recently at a book release party, made for both celebrating the author’s literary masterpiece and for networking, I experimented in greeting people.  I am annoyed if someone immediately asks, “what do you do?” just as I am bored if asked, “where are you from?”

So in spite of networking potential success in the literary industry I played with answers such as, encyclopedia critic, X-games rollerblader and feminist public speaker.  The former received poor reviews as people simply gulped their drinks and scanned the arena for someone more interesting/less full of shit to chat up and the latter was not well played by my part as it invited bra burning accusations.

However the rollerblading career truly worked wonders with the Colombian suit designer of Arden Reed, who cued his friend modeling his sleek blazer ensemble just a circle nearby.  Turned out Zoot Suit often goes rollerblading in Central Park and we talked for a while about the activity.  I did not go on to lie about the X-games and simply let the conversation wander to different topics.

Conga roller blading!

In connecting through email, it was quite refreshing to set up a time when we could get together to discuss prospects in public relations while of course going rollerblading.  This is a friendly approach as opposed to the typical, “It was great (a word that should be avoided as the dictionary is extensive) to have met you at the Blah Blah book party…”  And then trying to remember something that stood out about the conversation or about your confrontation that would influence that person to pay it forward.   Here is the beginning of our email correspondence:

 

“Dear Mike,

 It was lovely to have met you at the book release party over a common interest of rollerblading.  The suit designer I mentioned, who has blitzed a plethora of industries, is Jean Pigozzi.  Read his tell-tales of African art collections, express sailing, and magnetic presence in this Vanity Fair article –> “Living Large is the Best Revenge,”

Pigozzi. Jean Pigozzi.

Now understand that I am no suit designer aficionado, and rather read about people. Pigozzi could not fit into Tom Ford’s suits and so he designed, LimoLand.  The original slogan for his brand was, “Street Wear for Rich Old Men.”

Anyone who has gone shopping for a bathing suit has cried atop a pile of unsuccessful try-ons and then walked out of the store empty handed.  Pigozzi, however, found a solution for his disappointment.  I love reading about people to learn how to improve and to hopefully relate.  It helps to better understand character.

In networking, simply apply something that could be of interest to that person and send them a quote, an article or a photo.  Do more than simply passing off your resume.  They will decide whether you are a potential asset to their network and being human will not hurt your chances.

Please avoid lying, even if you become disgruntled like me about repetitive questions.  A better route to take is doing your homework.  For example, research the event beforehand, figure out who will be attending, read the book, and then be ready to discuss both sincerely and with humor so as not to give a class lesson.  Last and best resort, get drunk and be yourself.

get drunk and be yourself

Vvvelcome

I was born in the wrong time period.  Don’t like Facebook, could care less about a smart phone let alone apps, can’t figure out how to stream TV shows, what is a Skrillex?  However I am a progressive freak in the sense that I remember people’s names, am conversationally colorful and read bulletin boards.  This has worked surprisingly well in my ability to network.  Everyone is different, yet at the core, they value: time spent gaining perspective, having a laugh, and expanding who they know.

Turn web 2.0 down a notch to see people’s businesses eye-to-eye.